10th Issue @ Geisha Today "When a Guy's in Trouble"

"It's nothing, just leave me alone."
Girls, haven't you heeard your guys talking like that?
Why don't guys just speak up what's bothering them?
Why is it always the case that you try to listen to them and end up arguing with them?

- Girls and guys have different reaction toward troubles -
Girls persuade themselves while discussing the matter with others.
That doesn't happen for guys.
Girls, if you don't understand this, you might annoy them by doing them "a favor".

Guys need time to think over things alone.
Totally different from you, girls.
Guys persuade themselves while thinking things over and over alone.

'Cuz not many couples understand this difference, they go through all arguing.
Like this one…

Guy A：…
Girl B："What's wrong? Some trouble?" （Gosh, I'm a bit nervous with his look.）
A："There's nothing you can do." （Jesus, can't she realize I'm thinking something?）
B："Baby, if something's bothering you, just tell me what it is." （As I thought!! He's in trouble.)
A："Nothing's bothering me!!" （Is she ever gonna let me think?）
B："Why don't you tell me? You don't trust me?"
A："Of course I trust you!! But can't you give me a break?"（Why the hell we deal with "trust" here?)
B："OK, if you don't wanna talk with me, fine!!"

Reeealy typical.
Girls want their guys to persuade themselves, so they wanna let them talk.
While guys, need some concentration…

- Why guys need to be alone while thinking? -
Guys used to hunt, ah, in old era.
They couldn't of course depend on others.
They were all alone when they had troubles.

Naturally, guys developped themselves thinking alone to come up with solutions.
Girls, you need to understand that.
No offence, we're just different from you.

- Solution -
I think you've understood by now.
Don't let them talk what's bothering them.
And guys, you need to tell your girls you wanna be alone 'cuz you're thinking.
（Of course you need to tell them about the different reaction before that.）

So let's start it over again, shall we?

Guy A：…
Girl B："What's wrong? Some trouble?"
A："Ah, I'm thinking. Can you give me some time alone?"
B："OK, let me know when you're done." （Huh, guess I need to watch TV alone.）A："Yeah." （OK, now think it over.）

How painless it is!!