15th Issue @ Geisha Today How To Make Guys Apologize

Mikiko : “Why you don’t admit you were wrong?!”

Really familiar situation, isn’t it?
Guys don’t apologize in the middle of fighting…even if we are wrong.
I heard my readers asking, “Is there any way to make guys apologize?”
It sure seems so tough to make guys do it.

So today’s topic; how to make guys apologize when they are wrong.

- Simply give it up.
There’s one thing sure.
Guys would never ever admit they are wrong while fighting.

I myself tried my best to change this habit, but I haven’t been able to.
Well, we might, if you say things like we get fired if we don’t apologize.
But there aren’t so many cases you girls can have this kind of ultimate power, are there?
Even if you succeeded, we obey you only on surface, which is meaningless to you.

When girls and guys have fight, usually we miss the point of each other like this.
Mikiko ： “You’re always escaping the housework!!”
Satoshi ： “Always? No, I did help you last time, didn’t I?”

Mikiko wanted to emphasize Satoshi doesn’t help,
while Satoshi answers he does sometimes help.
There’s no meaning in keeping this conversation, ‘cuz it never gets anywhere.
So girls, finish the conversation when it gets like this.
It can only be worse if you continue.
When you fight with guys, there’s no hope they'd apologize to you.

- Don’t rationalize.
Here’s the tip after you leave the unproductive conversation.
Don’t rationalize things to guys.

Girls are able to apologize, to keep relationships good.
But guys aren’t. To us, apologizing means losing.

So when you girls rationalize things and try to prove we guys are wrong,
we feel like you force us to “admit losing”.
And we can’t accept this by our instinct.
When our instinct rejects, there’s no way guys apologize to you.
So…please girls, don’t rationalize things over us.

- Make guys touched.
So how do you make us guys apologize?
You can use certain techniques when you communicate with guys.
It dramatically works when you looks sad and say,
“I was hurt so much when you told me this and that.”

When your guy suddenly canceled the date, for example,
you should look sad and say, “I felt so sad losing valuable time spending with you.”
Every single guy will feel guilty.
Even more, we get touched!!!!!

’Cuz we don’t feel offended, we don’t have that stupid concept of losing, either.
So make guys touched when you want them to apologize.

- 3 key points on how to make guys apologize
（１） Understand guys won’t apologize when we fight.
（２） Don’t rationalize.
（３） Tell us you felt sad and make us guys touched.
This will make things totally different!!