21st Issue @ Geisha Today Pursuit of Dreams

Mayumi : “Are you crazy? Why the hell do you wanna quit your job?”
Kenji : “Well...I’ve got something I really wanna do.”
Mayumi : “But, but, then what’s gonna happen to our life...?”

Mayumi and Kenji got married 3 year ago.
Kenji has worked for a well-known company, and Mayumi has been a housewife.
Up to now, they got along well, except for little ordinal fightings.

Then Kenji said he wants to start his business.

- Guys are dream pursuer
Kenji seems finally to have determined on starting his business.
But Mayumi’s obviously against it.
Why does Kenji prefer taking risks after all those secure years at work?

Well...every guy wants to challenge something once in his life.
No matter how old we are, we have dreams deep inside.

It can be horse racing, it can be a rock musician.
And it can be starting our own business.
"It" varies from person to person, but we all have the same desire.

Guys wanna be heroes.
Ladies, please understand our desire.
Please don’t say, “I don’t think you’ll succeed” when we’re serious.
When we determine, we already use up all the courage.
Please start from trying to understand us.

- Women value security
Mayumi is against Kenji’s idea of quitting his job.
True, when they got married, that wasn’t in the plan..
Mayumi can be reasonably confused.

As we discussed in "Sense of Happiness", women like to feel small happiness in everyday life.
They need to have small but many happiness in their lives.

So, from girls’ point of view, which is happier?
（１） Their partner is trying to be a famous musician
（２） Their partner works for a well-known major company.

Surely most women would choose（２）.
Stable life signifies more small happiness in everyday life, doesn’t it?
My fellow guys, women value stability to ensure happy life.
Of course, stability includes stable income as well.

- Conclusion
Mayumi isn’t really against Kenji’s idea of starting his business.
She just got scared they might lose their “stable” happy life by that.
And Kenji also wants Mayumi to be happy.

So why do they fight?
It’s because they don’t understand each other's mentality.

Guys wanna be heroes, and women want stable life.
We need to understand each other before really discussing the matter.

Kenji can start his business without hustle-bustle by taking following steps, under Mayumi’s approval.
He may start his business little by little before quitting his job at once.
When he earns more by his new business than current job, he can quit the job.
Kenji discusses several decision factors to quit the new business in case it doesn’t go well beforehand with Mayumi.

Each side has to compromise a little.
But we do need to respect each other’s feelings.